Views from Fiona: Looking for Love in all the White Places
Fiona Abaasa.

Views from Fiona: Looking for Love in all the White Places


White men know how to treat a woman.

By Fiona Abaasa
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First published: November 13, 2006






For sometime now the white man has been a precious item for hungry, young nubile girls here in Uganda. The trend is not only in Uganda but the whole East Africa, and probably Africa on the whole. There is a misconception that any mzungu as they are commonly known here, is loaded with cash and will facilitate a girls' wildest dreams. Holidaying in Hawaii, the Bahamas, sip champagne in elegant Paris etc…

The girls or women are on the prowl looking for anything white to date, whether wife beaters or not… they provide a gateway from the poverty of Africa. Women have taken on desperate measures to hook these supposedly loaded white men.

One Eileen received mail inviting her to a Saturday party usually held at the American recreation centre in Makindye. She was ecstatic because it was sent by one Mark Hughes- definitely not a Ugandan. She dressed to the nines and off she went for the party. Her own folly was that she did not know those emails are sent massively and copied from one recipient to another. Eileen asked whoever would care to listen who Mark was and when she finally managed to see the guy, he was with his Fiancée. She accosted him thanking him for the invite and now that she was there she asked to chat. Mark's fiancée was left speechless and Mark was stunned. He thought it to be a sick joke but Eileen wasn't to be pushed off easily. The encounter soured Mark's relationship.

Bruce, a cultural attaché to one the embassies in town, says sometimes these guys [white men] display a certain kind of image that attract the femme fatales of this land. He goes on to say that the men feel wanted and look at the African women as exotic. Basically a lot of men bask in the attention the ladies give them and in return they provide the kind of lifestyle the ladies want.

The question is the zest at which girls here are searching for these white men. Take an example of Cathy who picked a business card her boss left behind and went on to establish contact with the gentleman all in the guise of business. Ken Hathaway Business Development Manager thought it was all business with Cathy representing her firm but by the time he found out he had already exchanged numbers. It was 'awesome' to him, he says, as he marveled at the ingenuity of Cathy.

Impeccable sources tell me that most embassies and consulates to Africa advise their employees to be alert… especially if they are married. This is because quite a sizeable number have dissolved their marriages and hooked up with the daughters of Eve.

While writing this article I signed up with Love site here and described myself as a Danish expatriate lady 30, working with an NGO looking for Ugandan men to have fun with and maybe leading to a serious relationship. Man! Everyday my mail was besieged by young and old men alike keen to date me.

From whichever angle you look at it men get the most attention from the girls. Alicia Wanjiku, a Kenyan student here says that white men know how to treat a woman; they pamper her, give her respect and with a tongue in cheek. And they are absolutely great in love making. To her she doesn't look out for white men to load her with cash but rather with love. Genuine or not she brings out some salient issues which the international magazines and novels have popularized that white men are great lovers. Basically it's relative from man to man and woman to woman but the damage is already done to the detriment of our indigenous men!

Whatever women look for in the white skin color reminds me of my psychology class at school. Human beings look for and try to get the unattainable. Certainly it does make sense since people can't change their skin color at the drop of the hat its probably to get the nearest which dating or marrying someone of a different skin color offers.

Happy hunting!

By Fiona Abaasa
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First published: November 13, 2006
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